My cousin's bridal shower was this weekend. We had a great time sharing in Crystal’s celebration of love.
Just before we cut the cake, we were asked to write down words of wisdom for the couple. I wrote, “Marriage is a relationship in which one is always right, and the other is the husband.” I am all about women empowerment, so of course, I am all for the woman being right. But I do know in marriage, it doesn't work like that. For a marriage to be successful, it is about give and take, and compromise. Marriage rates among younger people, people in their 20s and 30s are quite a bit lower for black women. It is comforting though according to http://www.forharriet.com, 78% of black women eventually marry, we just marry at a later stage in our lives.
Let’s get back to words of wisdom for the couple. I also added, take care of each other. But I wanted to know what marriage experts reveal to couples through counseling. What are their words of wisdom? I found the following on TD Jakes' page, which has some great information.
Love is forever. It cultivates the best in us; when we are loved, we grow, and when we love in return, we flourish. When love is real, there are no limits to what we will do for another. While love certainly climbs mountains and defeats obstacles, love is also quiet, supportive and above all else nurturing.
To authentically love someone, you must:
1. Work to understand each other. No judgment, only support.
2. Be open to sharing the good, the bad and everything in between.
3. Hold on--not just when it’s convenient, but through the roughest storms.
4. Love does not attempt to control the other. Love means giving of ourselves--freely.
5. Never stop showing them our respect and support, especially when they are down.
For more from TD Jakes check out http://www.tdjakes.com/.
Post in the comments words of wisdom can you share with the couple on marriage?
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