Often, I was the only female in a sea of male engineers, and scientist. I learned how to be successful amidst a variety of situations and circumstances. Successful women are in control of their lives. I make it my business to seize opportunities to improve my life and situations. Most importantly, I learned what not to do if I wanted to compete in a male dominated environment:
I never let anyone control my thinking ...
Successful women eliminate inner voices of doubt and anxiety. I have the mental strength to focus my attention on positive feedback and constructive criticism. Mental toughness is being able to control how your mind thinks, rather than letting your mind control you. Successful women need to stay calm and regain control of our emotional responses.
I never ignored my fears ...
Successful women know they need to confront their fears head-on. They do not waste valuable energy trying to avoid them; instead, they manage their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life. Suppressing a negative feeling only gives it more power, fueling our fears and slowing us down.
I never run from conflict ...
Successful women have gotten burned by conflict, criticism, and unfairness—just like everyone else. People who shy away from conflict assume that conflict always looks aggressive, overbearing, and disrespectful. This is not true because conflict can camouflage itself in many forms. We need to be alert for any behavior from others that is attempting to manipulate our emotions or thoughts. Once we recognize conflict for what it is, we can choose how we respond to it, rather than react out of fear or ignorance.
I never hold on to guilt from past mistakes ...
Successful women value their past mistakes because they have learned from them. They don’t hold on to guilt or regret; instead, they learn from the past and then they let it go. I look at mistakes as opportunities to learn something that you didn’t know before it happened. The past does not define us, it simply prepares us for our journey toward success and wisdom.
Post in the comments a lesson learned, what you will never do to make your presence known?
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