How do you have an awkward conversation with your sister or brother? What if your relationships with your siblings where toxic to your marriage, causing confusion and trouble? Would you limit your contact or even let your family go?
This is a tough one.... I keep going back and forth. On the one hand, I would say cut your ties with family, but then I think, blood is thicker than outsiders.
What do you do?
But, before you cut the cord with family, let’s have a conversation. With family you need to have truth speaking and also truth hearing....come to the table with love, peace, connection, and humanity.
But what does that look like?
If you have self-love, you will make an effort. Self-love directs you to bring truth to any conversation, especially with family. With self-love, you know deep down that what you think and feel are valid, worthy of sharing, worthy of consideration, and worthy of respect. I believe that the power of truth and love WILL heal broken relationships. However, both parties need to be willing to commit to truth and love to find a mutual purpose. When you engage, bring your best intent, skills, and influence to the conversation, holding on to your truth.
Define your boundaries. Go into the conversation knowing what behaviors and situations you will step back from and be open to a new connection with your siblings. You are the same, but with time, it is possible you will evolve. And reconnection is possible.
So, to answer my original question, would you cut contact with your family, my answer is yes. Sometimes you have to take a break to regroup, catch your breath, and give it time. When you care and love yourself, you are in a better situation to speak your truth and also listen to facts.
Post in the comments your experience with your siblings and difficult conversations.
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